Dealing with loss

Category: Health and Wellness

Post 1 by donna p (Veteran Zoner) on Saturday, 17-Feb-2007 11:47:53

I was reading some of the post and ran across a person who had lost her friend. I thought it would be a good idea to talk a bit about how to deal with loss. It can be a real tramatic time in a person's life. Last June when my father past I had a rough time. But I think my faith in the Lord has helped me to get through it. I think that iw the only way to survive. That is, to remember that this is not the end. There is much more to come. If we know Jesus as our Lord and Savior we have something great to look forward to. I hope this is an encouragement for those who are facing some loss at this time. Donna

Post 2 by Emerald-Hourglass (Account disabled) on Saturday, 17-Feb-2007 13:17:30

Yeah, losing people close to you and people you don't even know directly is hard. i lost family to suicide, old age and some friends to friek accidents and stuff like that.

Post 3 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Sunday, 18-Feb-2007 9:08:48

I have crawled through the wreckage of bereavment without religion thankyou.

I can't recommend a way of dealing with it other than to go with how you feel, don't shut out those closest to you, because they are also suffering.And never ever hide how you feel, or the result will be disasterous, for your mental well being.

Post 4 by coryJ (Veteran Zoner) on Sunday, 18-Feb-2007 23:14:23

While I know it is never good to hide how I feel, I feel a need to, because I do not want people to leave me. Usually what comes with my suffering of loss is depression, and a prolonged bout of it.

Post 5 by Selena Fan (Account disabled) on Monday, 19-Feb-2007 2:43:28

Hi Donna I'm sorry about your Dad! I lost my Dad too! As a Christian I agree with you! We all have to know Jesus! My Mom made us go to some grief concelor! He was some kind of doctor! He lost his daughter to suicide! He kind of helped a little! But my faith in God helps me more! I'm here if you ever want to talk! Your friend, Hope

Post 6 by coryJ (Veteran Zoner) on Monday, 19-Feb-2007 17:15:28

I lost a friend in 2003 to a hit-and-run driver, who turned out to be a preacher, of all things. My friend's birthday is coming up this Saturday, and even though he has been gone for three years (four in August), I still grieve his loss.
I am here as well if you need to talk.

Post 7 by Reyami (I've broken five thousand! any more awards going?) on Tuesday, 27-Feb-2007 15:45:35

I am still grieving the loss of my favorite poet. (not that i knew him or anything) He taught me a great deal, but these lessons are very difficult to explain unless you've read his work. His name was Mattie Stepanek, and all I can do since his passing, is move forward. ("Remember to play after every storm.")

Post 8 by Selena Fan (Account disabled) on Wednesday, 28-Feb-2007 4:01:07

Corey J I'm sorry about your friend! Hey wasn't that poit was a 12 year old boy! I saw him on Oprah a few years ago!

Post 9 by Reyami (I've broken five thousand! any more awards going?) on Wednesday, 21-Mar-2007 13:08:50

Yes, he was on the Oprah Show. Wise beyond his years.

Post 10 by audioadict (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Wednesday, 22-Aug-2007 4:26:07

I know how it is to deal with loss. I've lost a lot of people in the past five years. 5 uncles, 3 good friends, and 3 ants. It seems like that My family will leave me. I wonder who's next to go.

Post 11 by audioadict (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Saturday, 13-Oct-2007 19:27:59

Well, I'm no stranger to loss. One of my greatest fears is the death of a loved one or friend. I have fears of my parents, grandparents, and good friends dying. I also fear that I'll be the last one to go. I had some repetitive dreams of my grandparents dying, and some of my mom and dad dying. I know how hard it is when someone you love passes away. I remember when my grandmother passed away in 1995. It's still sad to this day.

Post 12 by motifated (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Saturday, 13-Oct-2007 22:21:03

I've had a close friend die when we were both in our twenties, and my father died in my second year of college. As difficult as those losses were, I learned a great deal about my values in terms of life and death. In the case of my friend, I learned never to take people for granted, because one day, you won't have them there to tell them how special they are. In the case of my father, and this gets way too involved for this post, but I learned that people who are close to you aren't really that far away as long as you need them.

Lou

Post 13 by audioadict (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Wednesday, 07-Nov-2007 5:51:30

Well, in the past weekend, I lost a good frend, and my aunt. I ask myself why are my family and friends slowly leaving me behind? Who's the next to go? What will happen to me when I'm left behind? I ask these questions all the time.

Post 14 by Reyami (I've broken five thousand! any more awards going?) on Wednesday, 07-Nov-2007 19:06:01

I don't think anyone can answer them for you. They're so abstract, and the future is unpredictible.

Post 15 by motifated (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Thursday, 08-Nov-2007 11:46:42

I agree with Joanne, there. I'd suggest that you made it this far, and there's no concrete evidence to say you won't continue to survive, and indeed thrive.

Lou